Said we were dating
The number one rule of dating is to never assume that you’re exclusive with a man until it’s confirmed.Donna Flagg, a communications expert and author of Surviving Dreaded Conversations, said, "A woman should never assume her beau is exclusive.My relationships at that point would go something like this: we would meet, there would be a spark, we’d hang out a few times, after a few weeks I would freak out and feel trapped and suffocated, I would then lose all interest in the relationship and would do whatever I could to sabotage it.I felt guilty but also kind of alarmed at my inability to feel anything.
I was aloof, I was hard to read, I didn’t get too close, I was present but never available, essentially, I was a guy (in the psychological sense anyway! My ‘guy’ behavior caused the actual guys was seeing to take on the ‘girl role’ and they were always way more into it than I was (this was also due to my aforementioned heartbreak which rendered me numb).
All of our "feelings" and what men unfairly call our "crazy" usually stem from just two things -- we want to feel safe (like we can trust you) and we want to feel special.
And as complicated as we seem, it is very easy for us to feel this way.
Eventually, I softened and started to warm up to the possibility of being in a relationship. He was really cute, really sweet, had a good job, and seemed pretty much perfect for me.
I liked him a lot at first, well a lot in relation to how much I was capable of liking anyone at that point which wasn’t really that much.
It may be nothing but I wasn't sure if there is a distinction.